If you ever find yourself blaming others, circumstances or yourself when you get upset, then you'll be more than relieved - you will feel empowered when you know . . .
Layne & Paul Cutright
Master Teachers & Coaches
Best Selling AuthorsAnd How NOT KNOWING the REAL REASON Will Keep You Stuck in Power Struggle, Disappointment and Failure Time After Time
Something Very Special for
Friends of Eldon Taylor
2 min. 45 sec.
Here's What to Do When
You Don't Know What to Do
Because
Nothing You've Tried Has Worked!
You're going to learn about a simple, easy and fasttechnique to transform any kind of upset into . . .
brilliant clarity
Using this technique will help you . . .
that can make life and relationships so painful.
We know this may sound like a tall order, and it is!
And if it sounds like something you really want, we promise your time here will be well spent.
Go ahead and read through what we, other experts and our clients share below and decide for yourself.
You'll see you have nothing to lose (except a world of upset and hurt).
Date:
Hi, we're Paul and Layne Cutright --
. . . and you may have heard of us, but if you haven't you might like to know a little bit about who we are and how our experience can help you in your relationship challenges.
We've been helping people create empowered, fulfilling lives and passionate, loving relationships since 1976. Even though we have taught all over the world, you've probably never heard of us.
In some cases, we're the "secret weapon" used by behind the scenes by famous "gurus" you have heard. They often call us in for special challenges, when nothing else has worked.
We are often the resource of "last resort" when new clients tell us they have tried everything else -- and none of it worked.
We are relationship educators, coaches and authors of You're Never Upset for the Reason You Think. We have studied what works (and what doesn't) in relationships for the past 32 years.
In the beginning, our "laboratory" was our own relationship as we sought the answers to questions like:
How can we keep the love alive and growing in our relationship?
We found a way to resolve
ANY kind of upset
What if there was a surefire way to resolve any feelings of conflict or upset you have about absolutely anything, once and for all?
Wouldn't you want to know about it?
If so, then get ready to learn about the most powerful conflict resolution tools you will ever find -- and, fortunately for you, the last you will ever need.
Let's face it, there are lots of upsetting things going on in the world today, and probably your own life.
- Just watching TV can be an upsetting experience, especially the news . . .
- Or driving in rush hour traffic . . .
- Maybe there is someone at work who upsets you . . .
- Or your wife or husband or kids or in-laws or neighbors are upsetting to you on a regular basis . . .
What do we mean by "upset"?
Before we go any further, let's talk about what we mean by "upset"?
Here's how the dictionary defines it: To distress or perturb mentally or emotionally; as in, "The bad news upset me."
An upset is any experience that:
disturbs your peace of mind,
you get the picture, we all know what "upset" means!
Maybe you can recall a time when you felt a:
Are any of these experiences familiar to you?
Did you feel like you were victimized in any way?
Did you want to blame someone or get even with them?
Do you remember feeling a loss of power or peace in those situations?
Most upsets are about the same feelings over and over and over again . . .
The problem is, most upsets are about the same feelings, over and over again.
You can use upsets as opportunities to learn something new about yourself.
Of course, everybody gets upset. Upsets are a part of life.
Start with the understanding that upsets are normal, especially in relationships. Not only are they normal, but they are also
- predictable,
- inevitable,
- and recurring.
That is, they will happen, and they will happen over and over again.
Why?
Because most upsets are internal conflicts played out in the dynamics of relationships. Instead of being about what happens in the external world, like the price of gas at the pump, they are about your own feelings and thoughts, like "People are always taking advantage of me."
Until you address the underlying issue, you get to replay the upset, just with new circumstances.
One week, it's the price of gas, and the next, it's your friend who forgets to call when she said she would. A week later, it's a mistake on your credit card statement. In other words, most upsets are an activation of unresolved pain from your past. It turns out you're never upset for the reason you think.
Focus Problem Solving
on the Real Problem
The biggest problem with believing you're upset about one thing when you're actually seething about something else is that you focus all your problem-solving in the wrong direction. If you believe you're dealing with Problem X and therefore apply a solution to X, it won't help if you're truly upset about Problem Y.
When you develop the skill to look deeper than the obvious and develop solutions for the real problems, you will be able to cure the source of your problems, not patch them up temporarily.
The circumstances and characters may change, but the feelings are the same - anger, hurt, defensiveness, blame, guilt, confusion, jeaousy, resentment, feeling victimized and powerless, obsessive thoughts, loss of peace, feeling emotionally drained - even chronic stress and anxiety.
Now, consider this . . .
- What if you were able to respond totally differently than you typically have in the past?
- What if you were able to remain calm, cool and collected, no matter what kind of upsetting situation was happening?
- What if you were able to think clearly and make rational choices and decisions, rather than being confused about what to do and making poor choices coming out of your emotional upset?
If the miraculous responses to the
challenging situations below may
seem a bit unreal to you now . . .
Unexpected money problems . . .
One day you get the news that interest rates are going up on your mortgage. You know this means that your monthly payment will go up at least $500, maybe more. Your mind races with fearful scenarios of losing your home in foreclosure, clouding out any rational thought.
BUT, because of your new ability to quickly see deeper than the obvious, what was a problem now actually helps you to create a new strategy for success.Criticized at work . . .
Imagine someone, a co-worker perhaps, accuses you of something you did not do. Naturally, you start to feel attacked and upset.
BUT, you do not react defensively. Literally, in seconds, you are able to respond from a place of peaceful clarity and authentic power that actually neutralizes the situation rather than escalating it.
Losing a friend . . .
You feel a helpless frustration because a good friend is giving you the "silent treatment". There has been a terrible misunderstanding and you don't know what to do to make it better. You have been wracking your brain trying to figure out what you might have said or done to make them act this way.
BUT, you remember the CURE and it shows you step-by-step exactly how to mend your friendship and make it even stronger than it was before.
A ruined vacation . . .
Imagine finding out a week before you are scheduled to leave on a Caribbean cruise that your friend made a mistake with the reservations and now you can't go. Your first reaction is shock, disappointment and anger. You would like to wring your friend's neck!
BUT, in less than 30 minutes you have bounced back to a state of peaceful clarity and authentic power that allows you to consider other alternatives, and create a wonderful vacation filled with fun, relaxation and helps you recharge your batteries.
A criminal loose in the neighborhood . . .
You're watching the evening news on TV and are alarmed and frightened to hear a bulletin about a criminal loose in your neighborhood. You hear police helicoptors flying overhead. Even after you've double-checked all the windows and doors to be sure they are locked and your loved ones are safe, you can still feel the adrenaline pumping.
BUT, you remember one of the secrets you learned and within minutes you are returned to a state of peaceful calm, centered in the feeling of safety that comes naturally from your own authentic power.
they will seem completely normal to you
when you use the "CURE"!
Here's what this is all about:
In a little bit we are going to tell you more about the process we developed called the Conscious Upset Resolution Exercise, or CURE for short.
But first, take a moment to read what these world-renowned experts (plus our readers and clients) are saying about this program:
What experts and clients are saying
about You're Never Upset for the Reason You Think and the "CURE"
"A wonderful book."
"The very insight that people really aren't correct in the "direction" of their anger or hurt is a rare glimmer into reality. This is one of those rare books about healing, personal growth, and self-understanding that fulfills it's mission and promise.
A wonderful book. The authors have done a service to mankind."
Kevin Hogan, Psy.D. - Author of The Psychology of Persuasion and Science of Influence
"A powerful tool."
"Paul and Layne's book offers a powerful tool anyone can learn to go from upsets to more love and peace."
John Gray Ph.D. - Author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
"Transform conflict into a gift of
conscious loving.""Practical, useful and compelling, Layne and Paul's book will show you a clear and simple method to transform conflict into a gift of conscious loving."
Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks - Co-Authors of Conscious Loving and Lasting Love
"Skillfully release any possible type
of upset.""Layne and Paul Cutright are the Einsteins in the process and practice of conscious evolution and emotional recovery. They chart a precise course to curing within ourselves the "common upset," which in fact ruins our lives."
Barbara Marx Hubbard - Noted Futurist and Author of Conscious Evolution, Emergence
"We're experiencing our relationship on a
whole new level.""My husband and I are experiencing our relationship on a whole new level we never thought possible since learning to use the CURE."
Deborah Haygood - Executive Assistant
"Great wisdom, reader friendly
and practical.""Here is great, great wisdom offered in an extremely reader-friendly, practical way. Putting these simple principles into practice will bring many people closer to the happiness we all desire."
Alan Cohen - Bestselling Author of I Had It All the Time and The Dragon Doesn't Live Here Anymore
"No more wondering what to do . . ."
"No more wondering what to do and how to handle it when conflict, challenges and upsets happen in your relationships. If you follow what Paul and Layne share in this book your relationships and your life will never be the same."
Susie and Otto Collins - Relationship Trainers and Coaches -
Authors of Should You Stay or Should You Go
"This is both a wonderful book and a literal tool-house."
"You're Never Upset for the Reason You Think is both a wonderful book and a literal tool-house. I found this book a delight and I confidently recommend it to anyone that finds themselves upset even occasionally."
Eldon Taylor - NYT Bestselling Author of Choices and Illusions and Mind Programming
In this practical step-by-step system, we will show you exactly how you can uncover the real (but hidden) cause of any upset, breakdown or setback, stop the pain and halt the slide toward more upset and disappointment, every single time.The result:
. . . joyful, close and fulfilling relationships that are no longer poisoned by bad feelings, hurt, anger, and the inevitable "distance" that follows.
. . . more cooperative and collaborative professional and work relationships.
. . . deeper, more insightful and accurate insight into what's really going on in any kind of upset
. . . greater resourcefulness in dealing with problems
. . . shorter bounce-back time so you don't spend days, weeks or months stewing about upsetting situations
This is not mumbo jumbo,
it is grounded in scientific fact
The CURE will reveal to you a new and powerful process for resolving any kind of upset. You're never upset for the reason you think is not just some new age mumbo jumbo. We are not just making this up.
It is grounded in scientific fact, from the field of neurobiology, that we explain in the book (pages 16 - 19) complete with diagrams. What we have done is create a powerful, practical application of this little known principle.
The CURE is our simple, easy to learn, step-by-step proprietary method to neutralize, clarify, and resolve any upset you will ever encounter . . . with lovers, business partners, co-workers, family members, children and any other relationship that is important to you . . . even with unsettling news you see on the television or experiences you have in life . . . absolutely anything at all that upsets you in any way.
You won't find this knowledge or
these tools any place else
You will not find this knowledge or these tools any place else. There are no other books or audio programs like this. Not only does this book explain the process in plain, easy to understand language with lots of examples and true stories, it is also a workbook that provides you with the simple worksheets to help you put this uncommon knowledge to work for you right away.
"I have created peace for myself and
my colleagues.""What a difference the CURE has made at the office! I have created peace for myself and my colleagues. I am a better manager and, I think, a better person."
Bill Felt - Research and Development Project Manage
"Insightful, practical and inspiring."
"The Cutrights take a complex subject and deftly guide us through the rough spots of conflict resolution without overwhelming us. Their new book is at once insightful, practical and inspiring."
Warren Farrell, Ph.D. - Author of Why Men Are The Way They Are, and Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say
"Take your relationships to the next level."
"No matter where you are in your relationships, Paul & Layne can take you to the next level and beyond. They are profound teachers of love and wisdom whose insightful distinctions reveal truly evolutionary ways of relating"
Debbie Ford - Bestselling Author of The Dark Side of the Light Chasers and Spiritual Divorce
"More empathy towards others . . ."
"I personally use the CURE in my relationships when there is a problem to see what is really bothering me. It helps me to be empathetic towards what someone else might be feeling."
Phyllis Weisel - Therapist, Jerusalem
The CURE Makes the Invisible, Visible
(pay attention - this part's really important!)
The illustration below shows you the invisible dynamic behind any upset, no matter what it seems to be about. As long as you blame and/or control others or circumstances, you are avoiding the real source of your upset, which is a Core Negative Thought you have about yourself.
Your Core Negative Thought is supported and given mass by other, validating negative thoughts. And these are all held in place by undesirable emotions that are the glue that binds the structure together. It is easier to be aware of the feelings than it is your negative thoughts.
Your painful, negative thoughts and feelings are protected by the Bars of Denial which prevent us from looking at or dealing with the underlying mental/emotional content. Why? Because it's painful and we have become very adept at distracting ourselves from even consciously acknowledging that it is there!
This invisible structure gives rise to behaviors that are essentially acting out the underlying, unconscious material. Those behaviors can be anything from blaming others, arguing and fighting (up to and including domestic violence), drinking too much or using drugs - basically, self-sabotage.
And those negative behaviors are the only thing the people in your life ever see! They cannot see your thoughts and feelings, which are the real source of the problem -- and your pain in an upset.
So, as long as you are trying to solve what looks like the problem, instead of the REAL problem, upsets will continue to happen with increasing frequency and intensity.
However, when you are able to uncover and identify your Core Negative Thought and all the rest of the content in the diagram below, then you are on the way to permanent relief and on the path of true personal power.
And that is exactly what the CURE does for you!
- Cheatproof your romantic relationships.
- Stop those fights that never seem to end.
- Resolve the most difficult, seemingly impossible upsets.
- Reduce the duration of upsets from days, weeks, months or longer down to minutes or hours.
- Reduce the intensity of upsets and make them much less likely to occur again in the future.
- Uncover what your emotions are really telling you.
- Re-ignite a fizzled out romance by removing the 3 hidden blockers that dampen your partner's true passion.
- Eliminate hurt feelings and anger in yourself and others.
- Expose "upset trigger points" so you can avoid setting them off.
- Halt repetitive negative patterns of behavior and thinking that have led to continual heartache in the past.
- Dissolve invisible blocks to your true happiness and well-being.
- Create an endless supply of confidence, peace of mind and personal power. (The kind that magnetically attracts others.)
- Nurture life-long relationships that only get better with time.
- Transform challenges into opportunities.
- Restore harmony and good feelings.
- Stop blaming yourself and others.
- Forgive yourself and others.
- Feel more in control of your life.
- Let go of things that no longer serve you.
- Overcome fear and feel safer.
- Gain a higher, more empowering perspective.
- Relieve emotional pain.
- And so much more . . .
Imagine the love and safety, power and freedom you will feel when you are no longer bound by unresolved emotional upsets that suck the positive energy right out of you and your relationships.
"I feel empowered rather than confused and defeated."
"I now feel empowered rather than confused and defeated after an upset."
Ken Courian - Mechanical Engineer
"An indispensable resource . . ."
"Paul and Layne's new book is a rare blend of inspiration and practicality. There's not a moment, person, or difficult situation that can't be uplifted by the 'CURE.' This book belongs on the super short list of indispensable transformational resources."
Raphael Cushnir - Bestselling Author of Setting Your Heart on Fire and Unconditional Bliss
"It takes the steam out of an
argument . . .""The CURE is effective on many levels. It takes the steam out of an argument by forcing you to take time out to reflect on a series of questions and provides valuable tools which result in looking in, instead of lashing out."
Elizabeth L. Allen - attorney and mediator, Coast To Coast Mediation Center
"I felt tremendous relief after using the CURE."
"I felt a tremendous relief after using the CURE. Almost immediately I felt different in my interactions with the kids. And THEY are much calmer!"
Rose Ann Kennett - Mother
A True Story of How the CURE
Helped a Client's Teenage SonWhen my thirteen-year old son, Jason, was dismissed from his school wrestling team, he was surprised and devastated. When I asked him what happened, he said he didn’t know, he hadn’t seen it coming. He was clearly confused and hurt.
I have had great success in using the CURE for myself, and my wife and I have even used it together in our relationship with great results. So, I thought I would try it with Jason and see if I could help him sort out this problem.
With a little probing using the line of questioning in the CURE, I learned that he was dissatisfied with only being given exhibition matches to wrestle in. He wanted to be on the team and thought he was good enough to wrestle in “matches that counted”.
Then, he revealed that he told his coach that if he couldn’t be in real matches, he was going to quit the team. The coach said, fine, if that’s what he wanted to do. Not the response Jason was expecting!
Jason thought his coach would encourage him to stay on the team and give him an idea when he would be ready to move beyond exhibition matches. With the CURE, we learned that Jason’s false bravado in threatening to quit was masking his underlying uncertainty about his ability.
He wanted the coach to reassure him and encourage him, and thought that was what the coach would do. When that didn’t happen, his “bottom line” thought, “I’m not good enough” got triggered big time.
I was able to help Jason see that it wasn’t the coach who was making him feel that way, but that he was already dealing with the thought of not being good enough in a lot of areas of his life right now.
He was starting to be interested in girls, he was developing new friend-ships in his new middle school and was being challenged academically, so there were lots of opportunities to feel “not good enough”. The coach’s comment was just the event that brought it all to the surface. Understandably, he wanted to lash out at the coach.
Jason was able to see that his ploy to get the coach’s approval was not the best way to go about getting what he wanted. He could see that it would have been much better for him to be straight with his coach and ask what it was going to take for him to be ready to wrestle in “real matches”.
Granted, the coach could have handled it differently and I think there are some more conversations to be had about Jason’s performance and getting back on the team. But, the important thing is that the CURE helped Jason learn a valuable lesson about himself.
As much as is possible with a thirteen year old, I think Jason is seeing this situation as a learning opportunity. And, I can help him not be so hard on himself.
William Flaherty - Father
Here's what's included in this special program exclusively for
Friends of Eldon Taylor
You're Never Upset for the Reason You Think
e-book and Audio Program
2nd Revised Edition with
all new chapter on
Belief Mapping
Six hour audio training programYou're Never Upset for the Reason You Think - Resolve Any Upset Quickly & Easily - e-Book Plus Audio Program
By Layne and Paul CutrightBe guided in a breakthrough step-by-step process to restore peace of mind and personal power in any upsetting situation. No matter if you’re troubled by catastrophic world events or personal misunderstandings, you’ll get to the root cause and resolve any upset at its core. This revised and updated edition contains an all-new chapter with a unique method for “mapping” your invisible limiting beliefs and quick-starting the change process.
Let Paul and Layne show you how to use the Conscious Upset Resolution Exerise (CURE) in this powerful 5 hour recorded teletraining, divided into 10 1/2 hour sessions.
This audio program takes the book to the next level as you learn from Layne and Paul along with the class participants dealing with real life situations using the CURE.
Includes an additional 1 hour recorded one-on-one coaching session with Layne guiding her client through the CURE to resolve a potentially costly business challenge. (total 6 hours of training)
You will never have to spend countless days, weeks or months with painful unresolved upsets draining your vitality, passion and creativity ever again!
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This little book was going to be a chapter in another book we were writing, but the material is so powerful that we decided that it deserved to be presented on its own.
This book will show you how to break free of the dangerous, damaging path of control and acquire the essential skills for creating cooperation.
This is an evolutionary imperative not only for our personal and professional relationships, but for our entire planet.
Only by understanding how to connect with, and live from, the Law of Source, will you be able to walk the path of letting go and fulfill the promise of cooperation.
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The Five Stages of Relationships
Self-AssessmentAll relationships go through five predictable stages. Knowing these stages is like having a map that will help you to accurately assess where you are in your relationships, where you have been, and where you can go. This will also allow you to deal effectively with the particular concerns of the stage you are in.
For example, upsets, disagreements, miscommunications, and misunder-standings are a predictable, inevitable, and unavoidable part of the second stage.
If you don't know that, you could easily misinterpret what is going on in the relationship, make misguided choices, and miss important learning and growth opportunities.Each stage requires a different, yet overlapping, set of skills. Success in relationships is about mastering these 75 skills and 15 things to avoid at all costs.
This self-assessment is very simple to do and takes about 30 minutes to complete.
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To your success & happiness,
PS - Think for a moment about all of the other people in your life who will benefit by you having this knowledge and skill. By using The Conscious Conflict Reatoluion Program, you will be setting an example of what's possible for those around you.
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